No matter our level of sexual experience, most of us have at least one sexual memory that sticks out above the rest in our minds, one that we remember as our absolute favorite. Our society puts a lot of emphasis on being perfect, especially when it comes to sex — but as you'll see below, our fondest sexual memories aren't usually about an encounter that was technically perfect. Rather, we cling to the memories of sex that was especially loving, fun, memorable or exciting in the moment no matter what may have happened later on in the story. There are some messages out there that claim that when we find a partner , we need to forget all our past sexual memories , and pretend that any adventures that we had before we met them didn't happen. But that's not true — our sexual memories are ours forever, and just because they may not feature our partner, it doesn't mean that we love our partner any less. We should celebrate our sexual memories because they're part of the whole of our sexuality — which includes who we were in the past, as well as who we'll be in the future.

Well, almost. That one guy that honestly believes thrusting his fingers in a way that means his fingertips touch your ovaries will give you an orgasm. Attempting to have sex in the bath. Sounds like something they do in films. In actual fact it results in 72 per cent of the soapy bath water splattered across your bathroom floor. Who knew? Trying to have anal, realising it feels like how you imagined a rhinoceros attacking you would feel, stopping immediately.

One July afternoon when I was fifteen I went for a walk with Vadonna, the girl who lived next door, and her younger brothers and sisters; we were all going to go skinnydipping in a creek on a nearby farm. When we got to the creek everyone was afraid to get naked, except Vadonna. She stripped and waded into the water while the others laughed and shouted and pointed at her from the bank.

Skip navigation! Story from Sex. These are just a few of the sometimes-disparate ideas that come into play when we talk about one-night stands. Because the truth is, this is an experience that a lot of women share, but experience entirely differently.